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How to Design Your Own Engagement Ring

Design your own engagement ring with the help of our award-winning designers. Get a free sketch and the ease of home try-on to find your dream ring. 

The internet is full of rings that are close but not perfect. The band is too thick, the prongs are all wrong, maybe it comes in a bezel but there’s no diamond halo option. But even if you think you’re in touch with what you or your partner wants, finding it can feel like searching for a needle in a haystack. And you’ve got allergies. Whether you’re frustrated with the available options or you knew you were gonna go for one-of-a-kind from the start, creating a custom engagement ring can be daunting, and frankly, unromantic at best. 

After all, this ring is supposed to be forever. You need to make damn sure it’s right. And having a hand designing your partner’s dream ring—or yours—is the best way to get exactly what you want. So you start researching only to run into design fees and non-refundable contracts, or waiting forever for the perfect ring only to receive a monstrosity you’re now stuck with. The struggle is all too real, but it doesn’t have to be. Here’s how to design your own engagement ring without a side of risk.

Taking the Catastrophe out of Custom

At Frank Darling, our design process starts with you. Forget what we’ve created for other people—with other tastes (though they can provide great inspiration). Whether you’re simple and sophisticated or a design rebel looking for something that stands out, the only thing we don’t do is generic.

And we Don’t Even Charge a Fee

We’ll pick your brain with some simple style and budget questions and then work up a free sketch! In fact, you can request as many sketches as you want until you find what works for you. Because there’s no better way to get exactly what you want. 

Pink diamond three stone with pear side stones on a pave band and paired with a matching pave wedding band
Emerald three stone in rose gold with vertical baguette side stones and a cluster of round side stones
Three stone ring with blue sapphire center

90% of the Rings we Ship are Custom

It’s kind of our thing. And we want it to be yours. So while most jewelers don’t allow returns on custom designed engagement rings, which means you’re stuck with something sight unseen, we like to keep things a little more low-key. After all, making this huge purchase is enough pressure already. So we offer free, 30-day returns on all custom rings. 

Custom Three Stone Setting with
Blue Topaz Side Stones
Custom Cushion Cut Solitaire with
Baguette Art Deco Styled Band
Custom Cushion Solitaire with Pavé Prongs and a Hidden Halo

The First Step is the Free-est

That’s right, our award-winning design team in NYC will turn around a one-of-a-kind ring sketch in just a day or two. At no cost. Because we know describing what you’re looking for is one thing, but seeing it come to life makes it real. You’ll receive images of your design and up to two rounds of free revisions to make sure we’re capturing all the unique details you’re looking for.

Emerald solitaire in platinum with knife edge band
Mockup of Custom Emerald Solitaire
with a Knife Edge Band
Custom three stone ring in yellow gold with an oval diamond and pear shaped london blue topaz side stones
Mockup of a Custom Oval Three Stone
with Topaz Side Stones

Try Before you Buy

We can also send you a try-at-home kit so you can compare diamond sizes and setting features in the comfort of, well, wherever you want. Lounge it up in the living room, or rock one at the office to see if it’s the right fit for your everyday. Then simply return the kit to us after five days, with our prepaid label, of course.

You’ll also be able to request a wax sample of your design once all the features are approved, so you can try on your exact ring at home, sans its final sparkle. This gives you the opportunity to see your design at scale before it’s created in fine metal by our expert craftspeople.

Wax prototype of three stone ring
Wax Prototype of Three Stone
Ring Set with Diamonds
Three stone emerald engagement ring platinum
Finished Three Stone Ring

You’re Such a Gem

Maybe you’re going au naturel—in terms of diamonds, of course—or maybe you’re into lab-grown diamonds. Maybe it’s a Moissanite, a birthstone, an exotic gem. We don’t judge. All we do is find the right stone for you, and for your budget.

You don’t even have to trust us. We know purchasing a diamond or gemstone over the internet can be a cringe worthy affair, so our experts can view the stones, make sure everything’s kosher, and send you video footage so you don’t ever have to just take our word for it. And because, sometimes, size really does matter, we can also send you a cubic zirconia sizing kit to help you pick the right carat weight for your final design.

Up Close Images of Two Asscher
Diamonds in White Light
An ASET Test of Two Asscher
Diamonds Showing Light Performance
Custom Asscher Solitaire in Rose Gold Setting
Custom Platinum Solitaire
with Scalloped Band

Sit Back, Pay, and Relax

Once you’re super satisfied with every last detail of your custom engagement ring design, our team will help you complete your purchase and your ring will be made from scratch here in NYC in three weeks or less. 

Behind the scenes photo of our workshop in NYC
Behind the Scenes in our Workshop in NYC

So, How Much will a Custom Ring Cost?

We don’t believe in charging a premium, or a design fee, for our custom engagement rings, which means they’re priced the same as our non-custom rings, based on the cost of raw materials and labor. No scandalous markups. No rip-offs. Just your dream ring made of the highest-quality materials, lovingly crafted by artisans who care.

Curious What Other People are Buying? Let Inspiration Strike by Exploring 

Some of our top requested custom engagement ring features:

Custom engagement ring design for Pink diamond surrounded by a round ruby cluster on a rose gold band and paired with a pave wedding band
Gemstone Accents

Custom three stone with channel set band pairing in yellow gold with two tone prongs and kite setting
Two Tone Prongs
Custom engagement ring design for for oval solitaire with double claw prongs on yellow gold band paired with pave wedding band
Super Skinny Band

Some of our recently trending engagement ring styles:

Custom engagement ring design for east west emerald bezel with matching twist band in platinum
East-West Settings
Custom engagement ring design for Emerald Three Stone Knife Edge Yellow Gold Compass Point Prongs Paired with Knife Edge Wedding Band
Compass Point Prongs
Custom engagement ring design for Pear oval three stone in rose gold wtih matching pave wedding band
Three Stone Settings

Ready to Design Your Own Engagement Ring?

As more and more couples decide to ditch classic for something a little more low profile or unconventional, it can be tough knowing where to start. But getting a custom engagement ring doesn’t have to be all pressure and no play. It can often be the easiest way to get something that’s totally you. And it doesn’t have to break the bank.

Take the quiz and request a free sketch to get started.