25.09.24

7 Reasons You Shouldn’t Get a Unique Engagement Ring

So, you’ve decided to put a ring on the finger of that special person. You know, the one who is just as quirky as you. Who you love just the way they are. And now, of course, you want a unique engagement ring just as quirky as your love. The kind of ring that makes their besties gasp and say, “Wow, that’s so you!”

And sure, personalized designs offer a chance to capture your one-of-a-kind love story, like how Beyoncé and Jay-Z might choose a ring that’s as epic as their private yachts in the Mediterranean. But before you dive headfirst into the world of unique diamond engagement rings, let’s talk about why “unique” doesn’t always mean “better.” Sometimes, it’s more about finding the right balance between standout and still-standing in 30 years. Because we’ve all seen our mom’s puffy-sleeved wedding dress, right? Let’s dive into 7 reasons you might want to rethink going ultra-unique for your big bling moment.

Reason #1: Personal Taste May Change Over Time

Here’s a harsh reality: taste is a fickle friend. Remember when everyone was obsessed with skinny jeans? Yeah, me neither. Just like your fashion sense, your taste in jewelry is bound to evolve. A unique engagement ring that screams “2024” might not feel as special or relevant in 2044. Will that unicorn of a diamond still feel magical in a couple of decades? Or will it just remind you of that regrettable summer when everyone thought “that shape” or “that color” was a good idea?

Instead, think about buying an engagement ring that can evolve with you—something that feels like a classic, with just enough personality to say, “This is us.” This isn’t to say you shouldn’t go for something with a bit of flair, but it might be worth considering how you’ll feel about your choice when trends inevitably change. Because let’s face it, nobody wants their engagement ring to feel like a pair of Juicy Couture track pants—fun for a hot second, but ultimately a fashion faux pas.

An oval diamond is framed by a sapphire halo and set in yellow gold — If you’re looking for a unique engagement ring that will stand the test of time try incorporating playful pops of color like a vibrant sapphire halo.

A bar set baguette diamond eternity ring — Want to conjure the likes of Audrey Hepburn or Marilyn Monroe? Opt for a sleek and simple diamond eternity band for endless elegance and stunning sparkle.

Reason #2: A Unique Engagement Ring Doesn’t Always Mean Timeless

The allure of having an unusual engagement ring is that it’s a style that no one else has. Like falling in love with an obscure indie band before they hit the mainstream. But not every band is The Beatles and not every ring will stand the test of time either. Some unique wedding rings may look outdated faster than a TikTok dance craze. I mean, are we still even doing TikTok dances?

When choosing unique engagement rings, consider the difference between trendy and timeless. For instance: Audrey Hepburn’s simple, elegant eternity band in Breakfast at Tiffany’s still looks chic decades later. On the other hand, that flowery, rose gold, octagonal-cut, diamond-encrusted engagement ring? It might not have the same staying power. If your ring looks like it belongs in a specific era, it could become a throwback—whether you want it to or not. So, unless you’re planning on starring in the next season of Bridgerton with a ring to match, consider going for a design that marries modern sensibilities with classic elements.

Reason #3: Resale Value and Market Demand

Let’s be real—you’re probably not buying an engagement ring with the intent to resell it (and we wouldn’t advise it as an investment property). This isn’t a Pokémon card collection, after all. But it’s worth noting that unique engagement rings often have lower resale values. Why? Because the market for highly specific, unusual pieces is smaller than for classic designs. That avant-garde, upside-down diamond might be “so you,” but if you ever decide to sell it (maybe to upgrade or pass it down), finding a buyer could be challenging.

Not that we want to rain on your wedding parade with talk of “what ifs,” but life happens. Circumstances change, and having a ring that retains some value can be a practical consideration. Think of it as the difference between buying a custom-built sports car and a well-made sedan; one’s going to keep you covered in more scenarios, both in terms of use and resale value.

An emerald cut solitaire diamond engagement ring is set in gold with four claw prongs — Look, at the end of the day, you’ll always get less than what you paid when you resell your engagement ring. But classic engagement ring styles, like solitaire or three stone, may make you a little more moohlah.

A bezel set oval solitaire engagement ring surrounded by unique engagement rings and a wedding bands — Wedding band woes? A unique engagement ring can make it hard to find that perfect matching band. Luckily, we offer enough styles where that isn’t an issue. So go ahead, mix, match, and build that ring stack.

Reason #4: Finding Matching Wedding Bands Can Be Challenging

So, let’s say you’ve found the perfect ring—unique, just like your love. But wait! Now you need a wedding band to match. Here’s where the challenge arises: finding wedding bands that complement a highly unique engagement ring can feel like trying to pair crocs with an evening gown. Sure, you can lean into the mismatch and work it like the Met red carpet, but the more distinct your engagement ring, the harder it might be to find a band that plays nice with it.

If you like the idea of wearing a matched engagement and wedding ring pair, or building a ring stack over time, then keep that in mind when purchasing your engagement ring. You can still customize a style that will work when stacked, or work with a jeweler up front on creating a pair that goes well together from the get-go.

Reason #5: The Risk of Design Miscommunication

Getting a custom, unique engagement ring sounds like a dream—until you realize you’re not exactly sure how to explain your vision to the jeweler. Design miscommunication is real, people! Imagine showing up at your jeweler’s studio with a photo of a ring from a fantasy TV show (looking at you, Lord of the Rings fans), only to receive something that looks like it belongs in a medieval dungeon instead of on your finger.

Working with a jeweler on a custom design requires clear communication. Especially since it’s not like returning a sweater that doesn’t quite fit—you’re making a significant investment in something you can’t really undo. Make sure you have a trusted, highly trained designer to work with (like the team here at Frank Darling), to help bring your dream ring to life.

A bezel set rose cut oval diamond — Trust us, you do not want your jeweler confusing rose gold with a rose cut diamond with roses engraved on the shank.

Solitaire rings without diamond embellishments are the easiest to maintain and repair. So if you tend to be prone to accidents, consider an engagement ring design that works in your favor – not against it.

Reason #6: Maintenance and Repair of a Unique Engagement Ring is Tricky

Engagement rings are a lot like buying a really nice car—beyond the major price tags. They require specialized maintenance and repair over time. You know, because you’re wearing them every day. That one-of-a-kind band with intricate engravings and unique stone settings? It’s not going to be as easy to clean or repair as a classic solitaire. And while we all dream of an engagement ring that stays shiny and perfect forever, reality says otherwise. Rings get dirty, prongs get loose, and stones need polishing.

And who wants to be running to the jeweler every few months for a tune-up? Unless you’re prepared to handle the potential costs and effort needed to keep that ring in pristine condition over the years, you might want to opt for something a bit more low-maintenance.

Reason #7: A Unique Engagement Ring May Be Harder to Insure

The other thing many folks don’t take into consideration before dropping dollars is engagement ring insurance. Which, frankly, is a must-have. But insuring unique engagement rings can be a bit like trying to get Taylor Swift tickets—complicated and expensive. Custom or rare designs might require specialized insurance policies, leading to higher costs. Plus, the more unique the diamond or design, the harder it might be to replace or repair if something happens. You don’t want your insurance company to give you the “We’re never, ever, ever getting back together” speech just because they can’t find a replacement for your custom piece.

When it comes to insuring something as precious (and pricey) as an engagement ring, it’s better to have all your bases covered. This might mean opting for a more classic design that’s easier to appraise, insure, and replace if necessary. Because as romantic as it sounds to have a one-of-a-kind ring, it’s not so romantic when you’re dealing with endless insurance headaches.

A unique engagement ring: a half bezel set Marquise diamond on a split shank yellow gold band is worn above a wavy diamond-studded wedding band. — Have your heart set on a unique engagement ring? Why not consider a unique ring pairing instead? This half-bezel Marquise engagement ring is both stylish and unique when paired with our groovy Cloud band

A row of pave diamonds flow under a bezel set oval cut diamond to create a unique split shank engagement ring — A practical bezel setting? Check! Unique diamond flair? Check! Breathtaking sparkle? Check, check, check!

Try Balancing Uniqueness with Practicality

So, you’ve made it this far and you’re still sold on the idea of a unique engagement ring. Us too, honestly, but try to keep things practical, too. It’s all about finding that sweet spot between “wow, that’s so different!” and “that’s going to stand the test of time.” Consider adding unique elements to a classic design—like a hidden gem or an engraved message inside the band. Or, if you’re set on a unique diamond shape, balance it with a more traditional setting. Remember, you’re going to be wearing this ring for a long time (hopefully!), so finding a design that balances personal style with timeless appeal is key.

Making the Right Choice for Your Engagement Ring

Choosing an engagement ring is a big deal—almost as big as saying “yes” to forever. While a unique engagement ring might sound like the perfect way to showcase your one-of-a-kind love story, it’s important to consider all the practicalities. Personal tastes change, designs may not stay timeless, and there could be issues with resale, matching bands, design communication, maintenance, and insurance. But don’t fret! Finding the right ring is about balancing uniqueness with practicality. So take your time, weigh your options, and remember—you don’t need to follow trends to find a ring that’s perfect for you.

Want to start with a little inspo? Check out our collection of signature engagement rings to find a design that’s both unique and timeless. We’re also happy to customize styles to suit your individual tastes. You can start with our style quiz (and get a free sketch), or schedule an appointment at one of our showrooms to chat with us about your diamond, gemstone, and ring design options. After all, your love is extraordinary, but your ring doesn’t have to be extra to show it!